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Normal sex duration

Published on April 1, 2008 at 4:16 AM · 19 Comments

Satisfactory sexual intercourse for couples lasts from 3 to 13 minutes, contrary to popular fantasy about the need for hours of sexual activity, according to a survey of U.S. and Canadian sex therapists.

Penn State Erie researchers Eric Corty and Jenay Guardiani conducted a survey of 50 full members of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research, which include psychologists, physicians, social workers, marriage/family therapists and nurses who have collectively seen thousands of patients over several decades.

Thirty-four, or 68 percent, of the group responded and rated a range of time amounts for sexual intercourse, from penetration of the vagina by the penis until ejaculation, that they considered adequate, desirable, too short and too long.

The average therapists' responses defined the ranges of intercourse activity times: "adequate," from 3-7 minutes; "desirable," from 7-13 minutes; "too short" from 1-2 minutes; and "too long" from 10-30 minutes.

"A man's or woman's interpretation of his or her sexual functioning as well as the partner's relies on personal beliefs developed in part from society's messages, formal and informal," the researchers said. “"Unfortunately, today's popular culture has reinforced stereotypes about sexual activity. Many men and women seem to believe the fantasy model of large penises, rock-hard erections and all-night-long intercourse. "

Past research has found that a large percentage of men and women, who responded, wanted sex to last 30 minutes or longer.

"This seems a situation ripe for disappointment and dissatisfaction," said lead author Eric Corty, associate professor of psychology. "With this survey, we hope to dispel such fantasies and encourage men and women with realistic data about acceptable sexual intercourse, thus preventing sexual disappointments and dysfunctions."

Corty and Guardiani, then-undergraduate student and now a University graduate, are publishing their findings in the May issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, but the article is currently available online.

The survey's research also has implications for treatment of people with existing sexual problems.

"If a patient is concerned about how long intercourse should last, these data can help shift the patient away from a concern about physical disorders and to be initially treated with counseling, instead of medicine," Corty noted.

http://www.psu.edu/

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  1. Roger Paul Roger Paul United States says:

    When I first started having sex it was a couple of minutes.  Years later it was usually 30 min to 1 hour (active intercourse).  My longest being 2 hours (with some chemical help).

    My present wife can't seem to take anything over 5 minutes and I am having a real tough time coming so quickly.  This is a serious problem that causes many problems in our marriage.

    So am I to blame for loitering in there or is she just to sensitive in there?

    Roger

  2. R.C. SCHILLING R.C. SCHILLING United States says:

    I am in a serious relationship with a women in her mid 20's. I am 50 and our sexual encounters about 4-5 times per week last over 2-3hrs. Her preference is female on top. Does the position have a factor? She follows with felatio and other intimate activity lasting over a hour is this normal?

  3. nirmal nirmal Canada says:

    I am 30 year old guy. When I first started having sex it was a couple of minutes.  Years later it was usually 10 min to 20 min (active intercourse).

    My wife is taking time to climax over 5 minutes and I am having a real tough time climaxing so quickly.  This is a serious problem that causes many problems in our marriage.

    Please suggest

  4. The truth The truth United States says:

    It's all about foreplay anyhow.  I participate in foreplay for a good 30 minutes teasing my partner.  During actual sex I may last for 3-10 minutes of actual pumping.  That is all it takes!  Anything over 15 minutes would be exhausting and defeating the purpose. Holding each other and talking afterwards in bed is the the final step in wowing your woman!! It's that simple.

    • Yeaaaah Yeaaaah United States says:

      THANK YOU!

      Why won't more women (BTW, if you're effing ONE, it's a WOMAN, not "a women") tell the truth: women don't WANT anything more than 5 - 15 minutes! That's why our natural lubrication lasts that long.

      Viagra is the enemy. Porn and Viagra/Cialis have wrecked sex for women, because now, men expect women to be up for hours of thankless, brutal raw intercourse. It's not hot, boy-o. It's gross. Chub it up & wank away for 1.75 hours, then we can talk. For 3 more minutes. You joyless narcissistic prix.

      xoxo, The Troof

  5. shahab anwar shahab anwar United States says:

    What is the normal sex duration of women to have full pleasure and go to orgasm state during sextual intercourse?

  6. Roger Roger United States says:

    Troof - thanks for your view, but it is just that yours.  If you'd read my post you would have noticed that some of the women I've been with enjoyed sex for well over 15 minutes - so you obviously don't speak for every woman.  I'm just not sure how many women feel this way.  We certainly have your opinion.

    • Bird Bird United States says:

      I've been getting a yeast infection almost every time after sex. I realized that it's because the sex takes way too long. I only enjoy it up to 15 minutes and anything after that it starts to hurt and the bacteria get into the tiny rips in the tissue, causing this horrible infection. The women who enjoyed sex for hours with you were probably pretending after a while.

      • Roger Roger United States says:

        Probably?  I was with them and long enough to say - no, they enjoyed it.  You may have drying issues and may not be using lube enough, but there were no issues. My current wife and I seem to have hit on a compromise that works for us.  So, really the answer seems to be - different times for different folk.  

        BTW, we had a room at a resort next to a couple that I swear were at it virtually ALL NIGHT!  We saw them the next day and she seemed just fine - although we did not ask.  Wink

  7. vivek vivek United States says:

    What is the normal sex duration of men? Becouse I am 30 year old guy. when I first started having sex it was a couple of minutes. I get feared I have sex problem.

  8. liam liam United Kingdom says:

    I'm I am 18 and first started having sex only a year ago, my current worry is that I last too long, I have gone 4 hours of sexual intercourse (not including foreplay) without ejaculation before, no drugs no anything, my girlfriend claims that she doesn't mind when I last a long time (up to 3) but 4 hours is far too much. I want to know basically is there any named medical condition for it. We have linked it to my unusually high pain threshold and decided I may have a whole body under sensitivity problem any help???

  9. abc abc United States says:

    My dear friend, I am also suffering with the same situation. Can you please tell me the name of drug and did you feel any side effect?

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