Feeling bored in marriage leads to substantially less marital satisfaction even nine years later, according to a study published in the April 14, 2009 issue of Psychological Science.
Stony Brook University social psychology researchers Irene Tsapelas and Arthur Aron, along with University of Michigan researcher Terri Orbuch, interviewed a representative U.S. sample of 123 married couples seven years into their marriage, and then again, nine years later, 16 years into their marriage.
As part of the Year 7 interview, couples were asked, “During the past month, how often did you feel that your marriage was in a rut (or getting into a rut), that you do the same thing all the time and rarely get to do exciting things together as a couple?”
The key finding was that those who were bored with their marriage at Year 7 experienced a greater decrease in satisfaction at Year 16; those who were not bored at Year 7 experienced a typically small decrease in satisfaction at Year 16. Researchers also found that lower satisfaction at Year 7 did not lead to increased boredom over the next nine years.
Until recently, most marital research has focused on eliminating problems, but some studies indicate that a larger problem faced by many long-term couples is simple boredom and lack of excitement. Indeed, a number of studies by Aron, a professor of social psychology at Stony Brook University, and his associates have shown that having couples do exciting things together leads to increased marital happiness. However, those previous studies were all short-term experiments or one-time surveys. The present study provides the first direct evidence of a significant long-term negative effect of marital boredom.