What is Helicopter Parenting and Why is it Bad?

There is an increasing demand for young people to do well and exceed expectations in all aspects of their life. Due to poor job security and high competition to secure college places, a lot of parents find themselves micromanaging their children to give them that added boost, but can this be detrimental to the child?

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What is Helicopter Parenting?

Helicopter parenting is often referred to as the over part in over-parenting. It involves excessive levels of involvement and control by parents in their children’s lives. A motivation for this parenting style is driven by the parents’ worry that their child might come to harm or not flourish.

Early coverage of the parenting technique featured the impact of parents’ behavior on elementary and high school-aged children. However, the impact of high levels of involvement has been examined in college students and adults too.

A recent survey discovered that just several large companies had been contacted by their employees’ parents at one point during their employment.

Human resource professionals have reported incidents of parents attending job fairs on behalf of their children, and have even attempted to negotiate their child’s salary. Due to this increasing trend of over-active parenting, some colleges have now started providing guidelines for staff who have to interact with overly involved parents.

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Negative Effects of Helicopter Parenting

Parental involvement in a child’s life can be extremely beneficial, but only if it is developmentally appropriate. Despite, parents’ best efforts to help their children, helicopter parenting has been found to have harmful effects on the well-being of developing adolescents.

For children to develop, it is often necessary for them to fail and learn from their mistakes through trial and error. Unfortunately, helicopter parenting limits children’s ability to engage in this opportunity, and research suggests that it can stunt a child’s cognitive and emotional development.

Research examining the impact of helicopter parenting found that parents of children who had anxiety attempted to help their child more often than parents whose children did not have anxiety. This was seen even when the child did not ask for support. This suggests that the parents of anxious children may view challenges to their children as more threatening than the children perceive the same challenges themselves. If done frequently and over time, this can reduce their natural ability to succeed using their own initiative.

Similarly, studies have indicated that the parenting technique can actually cause anxiety. College students who reported that their parents were actively involved in their school work, or created very structured environments during their youth, were more likely to have depression and anxiety as an adult, and were less perseverant. These effects were explained by the perceived violation of the child’s right to freedom and competence.

Helicopter parenting can influence not only the psychological well-being of children, but also their social behavior.

Research investigating the effect of high parental involvement on psychosocial behavior concluded that high levels of parental involvement impacted the psychosocial adjustment of children, particularly during their teenage years. This is demonstrated by children acting out, and is linked to the externalization of problems.

Positive Implications of Helicopter Parenting

On the other hand, these warnings are contrasted by a body of literature which demonstrates that parental involvement can aid healthy development.

In family setups where parents are regularly involved in their children’s lives, and provide appropriate support for their development, the children tend to excel academically and emotionally, and build better relationships with their peers.

Specifically, high levels of maternal support are associated with socially acceptable behavior and hope in young people.

Additionally, when surveyed, children whose parents engaged in helicopter parenting thought positively towards them. In particular, they described them as being involved and emotionally supportive, despite the fact they felt that they were not given enough freedom.

Ultimately, parental involvement can be extremely beneficial for children. The literature surrounding helicopter parenting suggests that it is the type of parental involvement rather than the amount that will influence a child’s well-being and the ability to become a well-adapted adult.


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  1. James Corbyn James Corbyn United States says:

    Thank you for such in-depth research. Being a teacher and a tutor, I often deal with parents who considered to be helicopter parents. I agree there might be a few positive implications of helicopter parenting, but in most cases the effects are negative. From my own experience, the children of helicopter parents often have problems interacting with their peers, as they simply do not appreciate social coexistence due to their self-centeredness https://ivypanda.com/essays/helicopter-parents/. On the other hand, they lack confidence and feel insecure when it comes to problem-solving.

  2. Isaiah Ali Isaiah Ali United States says:

    I will try to talk to my mom about it (if she will listen) because I can't engage in anything in my life. I can't have a relationship, have fun with friends in school, or do what I wanna do without her letting me, or being, well, a helicopter mom so much. I need her and want her to allow me to do things on my own and let me see the results for myself. Instead of punishing me for things that are little to ex. Today, I had soccer tryouts, it was cold outside. When she came to pick me up I had my hat on to keep from the cold. (But I didn't have it on during the tryouts, because I thought it would look silly and will get messed up or anything.) When I got in the car, the first thing she said (not a hello, or how are you doing son) was it's cold out there! Did you have your hat on? I respond by saying yes, to try to quickly end the conversation so she won't be a buzz kill after I just had tryouts and want to go home. But she asked me multiple times, telling me to tell the truth. After that, I told her no, and she got so pissed that I don't know why. I didn't mean to lie, but it was necessary to because even if I did have my hat on, what would be the difference? I would still be cold. Now, thinking back I was wrong about that but still. She got so mad that instead of dropping me off at school, she sent my butt to take the bus. IN THE COLD! My question is why would she get mad over me being in the cold now she sent me back in the cold? Welp, as I said to myself. If I get sick and die. The number 1 person I'm blaming is my mom. I'm sorry but it's true.

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