Opinion

... in response to Causes of Gender Dysphoria
  1. Kit Slagle Kit Slagle United States says:

    Since my earliest memories I felt something was wrong. I felt like a freak from my childhood to an adult. I had to fake things that did not feel natural to me so I could blend in the best I could. You spend most of your life acting a part and otherwise I felt like I would not be accepted by my peers or my family. And you spend so much time acting and putting up walls that you forget why your doing it or who you are. I looked back on my life and I had many memories but in many ways it all felt like a fog. Even though I remember everything it felt like I was living some one ells's life. I could not make sense of why I felt that way. Back in 2013 my Dad past away and the walls I had put up started falling. Many memories I had stuffed away started coming back in a rush and realized why I spent so many years in depression and feeling miserable. At this point many would think I would go off and get HRT and get surgery, but no. I am one of the few that has elected not to because I can't stand the thought of losing everyone I love. And there are other reasons but many would not understand those. The reason why I commented is because its not something that comes about when you are an adult, you suffer from it your whole life. And I hate it when people that do not understand what a person like I and others like me go through talk about it as though they were an authority on my life. I have lived it, you have not and so can not begin to talk about what you do not know. I am not trying to be an ass but you have no idea what me and others have gone through our whole lives(not just adulthood). It is miserable existence, acting out a life that is not you at all. You realize that no one you know truly knows you but only the part you play. Like I said I love my family and even though they don't know me I know enough about them that I want to keep them in my life so I am one of the few that has chosen to remain silent, but your not family so I have no problem telling you.

    • Ven Vara Ven Vara Oman says:

      when i was  in young age i didnt know what to do . Then i started to act of course unsuccessfully . Still today now i am 50 years old no marriage or no friends still suffering in loneliness depression

    • Ven Vara Ven Vara Oman says:

      I feel guilty that i never was a good son to my mother more of rebellious . two times i run away from my family . My mother could not help me for this problem  but she loved me . Now i cry everyday that I was not a good son for her

    • Patricia Schaefer Patricia Schaefer United States says:

      Kit,

      Even though your comment was posted a long time ago, I felt I had to respond. i'm very moved by what you have written. I recently started a relationship with a MTF transgender person.  She is a wonderful, smart, kind and beautiful person and she gave up quite a bit later in life to transition.  She lost a career in finance, and moved locations, but in the end, it was worth it to her to save her life.  I can't claim to know or really fully understand her transition.  But I admit that, and do the best I can to love and support her, even if at times I wonder at this complex thing we both grapple.  My point is that there is hope, and a loving full relationship, both emotional and sexual, with someone who loves you is not a dream. It is not impossible.  I have never felt closer to anyone than I do her and I admire her courage.  I  truly hope you find love and happiness, and the intimate joy of being known by another. You have my best. Thank you for your insightful comments.

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